Non linear process

The Blossoming Process

Not a forward or backward process. You most likely were triggered and vulnerable, so your emotions got the bigger focus than your thinking. Remember this change is for a life long practice. It’s not about being perfect. Not realistic. Just like if a parent gets upset with their child, going back to repair is the most important part. Doing that with yourself will be the biggest example of progress and growth.

You do know how. It takes practice. You’ve had a lifetime of not knowing how and yes several months of learning about why, and now you’re in a process of learning more skills which is the HOW part.

Realizing that your feelings (especially the big ones and most especially during times when you are vulnerable), is the first big important part of this healing process. Putting what your learning and what your realizing about yourself into practice everyday, each week and each time a situation comes up.. it’s really hard work and of course it’s going to be exhausting.

Your relationships are changing, that could be a part of what the emotions get so big. You ARE changing:

You’ve been hearing in a different direction when you think about yourself these days, yes?

You may recognizing that you don’t have to put up with not being considered, not being valued. Being the kind of person who deserves to have loyalty and direct honest communication.

You are establishing standards and boundaries for yourself. That means you are worthy and considerations that build self esteem and show self confidence.

That’s a really different You who may have come across as confident but who just didn’t know so she couldn’t realize that it was your self worth that was the injured part needing to be healed. You are in a process that is taking the time to realize and believe that all the hurt you’ve experienced was about other people who were also hurt hurting you.

Neglecting, ignoring themselves and passing it on.

Taking the time to heal yourself is very time consuming but not impossible nor forever. It is though something only a very few people stuck with long enough to have satisfying relationships — which is how we prove to ourselves whether or we are participating in a satisfying life.

Practice makes possibly permanent not perfect.™️